Ten Reasons Why I'm Done Having Children

These are the top ten reasons why, after bringing four human beings into this world, these loins are refusing to bear any more fruit:  

1.  The smell.  It starts in that first diaper, and it doesn't end until they move out, and start stinking up their own houses.  It comes from their rear ends, their arm pitts, the shoes they wear, and the teeth that they haven't brushed in three days.

2.  The mess.  Demolition teams spend hundreds of thousands of dollars to take down a building.  They have engineering degrees, permits, and licences.  But they're doing it all wrong.  They don't need high powered explosives, or even a large metal wrecking ball.  They just need to let my kids run loose through the building for about two hours.  Job done... on time and under budget.

3.  The phenomenon.  Maybe novelists need to stop looking into cold case files, and medical mysteries for inspiration.  Just come to my house.  Who broke the lamp?  Who spilled the milk?  Nobody knows.  It's a mystery.  "Wasn't me, it was her" ... "Not me, it was him" ... It wasn't this one or that one ... maybe it was the kid next door. "It was the dog, I saw her do it".  And the best one: "It was already like that".  Of course it was.  Because I spent days of online research, and comparison shopping, to be sure I got the electronic device with the cracked case.  It's not a design flaw, it's a character trait.

4.  The junk.  Oh, the junk!  Each of my children have their own personal collections.  My youngest treasures every molded plastic character that the nugget clown, and burger monarch have bestowed upon us.  The hoarder in the middle revels in random bits of wire collected from around the neighborhood.  Screws, washers, and other bits of parts of outdated and unusable computer equipment, saved for a possible future use by my techie son.  They make Fred Sanford look like Martha Stewart.

5.  The noise.  Bump--Bang--Thump... Twang?  Oooowww!  Electronic drum kit, piano keyboard, Dance Dance Revolution.  Blip Blip Blip.  Did not -- Did too!  Boom Boom Pow.  That's mine!  You shut up!  Need I say more?

6.  The food.  Let's just call them what they are.  They're not small human beings.  They're hobbits.  I know this by their eating habits.  Breakfast, second breakfast, elevensies, luncheon, afternoon tea, dinner, and finally, late supper.  Oh, and don't forget dessert! Then the midnight snack... geeez.

7.  The cost.  I've come to realize that I didn't plan ahead.  Before having children, I should have started my own apple orchard and dairy farm.  I should have bought stock in the companies that make cereal, pizza rolls, and popcorn.  If I had, then I could better afford all the batteries, art supplies, music downloads, field trips, school pictures, and yearbooks.  In fact, the money I could have made from the cereal industry alone would've paid the electric and water bills.

8.  More junk.  I know I've mentioned this before, but that was their junk.  Now I'd like to mention my things that they've turned into junk.  The coffee and end tables that have lost their legs, veneer, and/or and their glossy finish.  The first edition, hardcover John Grisham novel that now has illustrations it was never meant to have.  Dressers that no longer have pull knobs.  Nostalgic memorabilia, like my decoratively etched high school prom glass, that was turned into a pile of glittery white dust.  VCRs that ate peanut butter and jelly sandwiches.  The list goes on.

9.  The debates.  I did not participate in this high school academic sport.  I am not a lawyer, or a politician.  And yet, here I am, refining the art of the Back and Forth.  First I state my case, carefully give instruction, or reprimand.  Then I'm called to explain and prove my theories, sometimes even having to cite specific resources.  Sometimes, I even find myself having to prove my proof!  In the end, you win some, you lose some.  No, I'm not talking about the arguments... I'm talking about your brain cells!

10.  The pain and fatigue.  These go hand and hand, as it is often the pain that facilitates the fatigue.  And vice versa.  It starts with the pregnancy that alters the bend in your spine, and the birth that widens your hips.  Then of course, if you've happened to have a big headed son, who got stuck on his way into the world, and has forever altered the tilt of your pelvis... ah-hem... but I digress.  Let's talk about the sleepless nights spent walking and rocking the wailing infant.  Then comes the brief overnight naps, in between which you rise to check on the fever, change the bedsheets, and disinfect and deodorize the room that reeks of virus induced vomit.  Bending over bathtubs.  Hauling overloaded laundry baskets.  Tripping over toys left on staircases, or the floor of a dark room.  Learning new math skills that you don't understand, so that you can help with the homework.  Drowsy hours in the ER.  Cramming your big butt into those little chairs in the classroom.  Pacing the floor, waiting for the teen to arrive safely home from the party, or the skating rink, or the mall.  Gripping the dashboard with arthritic fingers during the driving lesson... etc, etc., etc.

Sorry kids, I've given you all I have.  I've even tapped the reserves.  There are no more generations coming up behind you.  You are it.  So, do right by me, okay?


  1. Thanks for the laugh. I thought for sure you would have some disclaimer at the end about how they are all worth it and everything. Nope. Ha ha. It's okay, I know it goes without saying, no need to get all gushy.

  2. this had me smiling, reading the whole thing, and I couldn't help laugh out loud a little on #2 & #3! :D

  3. Very cute list. I stopped after two thanks to a little spitfire girl ;)

  4. Haha! I haven't started having kids yet...thanks for the encouragement! :) I'm sure I'll feel this way someday.

  5. I definitely should have planted an orange, lemon, grapefruit and apple tree before having children. And purchased a dairy cow. For my husband too actually.

  6. Thanks for the laugh, as a mom of 4 yr old twins and a daycare provider, I know where you are coming from. My sister has 6 kids and the newest is 6 weeks, If I feel the want I just wait for her to have another, then I can hold, spoil and send home!!!


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